Wedding + EVENT

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TIMELINEs

 

save the dates

mail 6-12 months before your wedding date

The short answer is that Save the Dates should be mailed 6-12 months prior to the wedding day, but a variety of factors can influence this decision. Wedding location, guest accommodations, and the targeted attendance size should all be considered when choosing what is best for you. While they are not traditionally necessary, Save the Dates have become quite customary in recent years.

wedding suite

mail about 12 weeks before your wedding date

I recommend aiming to mail the Wedding Suite about 12 weeks prior to the wedding day. That leaves about six weeks for guest to receive the invitation and mail their response back within a typical reply timeline.

rsvp reply request

request six weeks before your wedding date

The consensus for the RSVP reply date hovers around six weeks prior to the wedding day. This allows for some time to track down any outstanding replies. Keep in mind venue or catering vendors may require a more specific timeline for a final headcount.

day-of-items

about 12 weeks before your wedding date

Typically the first priority will be focusing on the Wedding Suite rather than day-of details. Once they are in the mail, attention fully shifts to day-of items. Wedding day materials can include ceremony programs, a seating chart, escort cards and/or place cards, table numbers, dinner menus, bar signage, cocktail napkins, and more. It really is a personal part of the planning process to decide what extra details will be included.

THE ULTIMATE


GUEST LIST TEMPLATE

for all necessary guest information and more

  • Proper titles and names and for every household with corresponding mailing addresses are necessary for printing or hand-calligraphy on any mailing envelope.

    Traditionally, outer and inner envelopes are included in a wedding suite. They provide additional protection during the mailing process and bring additional etiquette guidelines in regards to recipient formatting. However, it is not unheard of to forgo an outer and inner envelope combination and just have a single mailing envelope. The template includes two tab sheets depending on your envelope decision.

    Here are a few general examples following traditional formal etiquette.

    Married Couple
    ”Mr. and Mrs. John Kelly”

    Married, with Maiden Name
    Mr. John Kelly and Mrs. Jane Johnson”

    Unmarried, Living Together
    ”Mr. John Kelly and Ms. Jane Johnson”

    Married, both Doctors
    ”The Doctors Kelly”
    ”Drs. Jane and John Kelly”
    ”Dr. John Kelly and Dr. Jane Kelly”

    Married, both Doctors with Maiden Name
    ”Dr. John Kelly and Dr. Jane Johnson”

    Married, Women Outranks Husband
    ”Dr. Jane Kelly and Mr. John Kelly”

    Boys over 16
    “Mr.”

    Girls under 18
    “Miss”

    Widowed Women
    “Mrs. John Kelly”

    *When Using Outer AND Inner Envelopes*
    Use Full Names and Titles on the Outer Envelope, Use Only Titles and Last Names on the Inner Envelope
    Outer: “Mr. and Mrs. John Kelly”
    Inner: “Mr. and Mrs. Kelly”

    Only Designate Plus One Invitation on the Inner Envelope
    Outer: “Ms. Mia Jones”
    Inner: “Ms. Jones and Guest”

    Only Designate Invited Children on the Inner Envelope
    Outer: “Mr. and Mrs. Greg Smith”
    Inner: “Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Alex and William”

  • Mailing addresses are necessary for printing or hand-calligraphy on any mailing envelope. In the template, the “street address”, “city, state”, and “ZIP code” are intentionally separated. Addresses will appear exactly as they are typed in. The more formal etiquette is not to use abbreviations in the mailing address portion, only use abbreviations in names and titles.

    Be conscious of inconsistencies such as,

    “1234 Main Street” vs. ”1234 Main St.”

    “Apartment 8” vs. ”Apt 8”

    “Saint Louis, Missouri” vs. ”St. Louis, MO”

  • The first and last name of EVERY guest is immediately relevant when creating a place card at each seat for every guest, whereas escort envelopes can include more than one person by defaulting to the designated household name.

    For example, you may already have “Mr. and Mrs. John Thompson,” in the first household category, but it may be necessary to have “Mr. John Thompson” AND “Mrs. Jane Thompson” clearly noted as well.

  • A savvy shortcut in this template is to designate a primary last name for each household and have the list alphabetically sorted by this category. This avoids confusion with unfamiliar names due to recent maiden name changes, divorce, or any guests with unrecognizable proper names.

    For example, three adult sisters from the Jones family are invited, but only one sister is married and now listed under the household name with her husband as “Mr. and Mrs. James Louis”. Designating her primary last name as “Jones” ensures that she will be organized on the list next to the rest of the invited Jones members, despite different household last names.

 

COMMUNICATION etiquette

I personally lean towards traditional guidelines for weddings and events,

see all things Emily Post.

However, with the ever-evolving event industry, staying up-to-date with current trends and alternative options is invaluable, especially moving forward after the last few years. I hope to inform and guide you in the decision-making process because ultimately, it is YOUR big day.